Gratitude

Have you read John Kralik’s book, A Simple Act of Gratitude; How Learning to say Thank You Changed My Life?

John Kralik

 

At age 53, John Kralik found his life at a terrible, frightening low: his small law firm was failing; he was struggling through a painful second divorce; he had grown distant from his two older children and was afraid he might lose contact with his young daughter; he was living in a tiny apartment where he froze in the winter and baked in the summer; he was 40 pounds overweight; his girlfriend had just broken up with him; and overall, his dearest life dreams–including hopes of upholding idealistic legal principles and of becoming a judge–seemed to have slipped beyond his reach.

Then, during a desperate walk in the hills on New Year’s Day, John was struck by the belief that his life might become at least tolerable if, instead of focusing on what he didn’t have, he could find some way to be grateful for what he had.

You can read more HERE.

John Kralik chose an attitude of gratitude and it transformed his life. It changed his mental health and his outlook. It enriched his perspective and made him a better person.

 

 

 

 

Goodbye, friends!

It is my nature to clean out to avoid clutter. I recently cleared out some books and sent them to new homes. If in doubt, toss it out! (Well, sometimes…)

It was time to send some of the stuffed animals to new homes. When I moved here, I sat out all the animals to decide if they should all come to TN with me, or not.

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They all came to TN. The doggie with the hat (third from right), eventually went to his original mommy in Romania.

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The doggie on the bottom came, too.

But the other day, I pulled out all the animals and sorted again. These below will go to my teacher-friend, who will use them for prizes. They will have new homes.

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Below are the ones that remain, the favorites:IMG_0884

Lambie, Cocoa, Kacey and Cranberry.

No, Kacey, it was never a question as to whether you would stay or go.

And just for the record, people friends are indispensable.

One Day in the Grocery Line

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Envision this:

Person A: You are in the checkout lane and while your groceries are being rung up a friend walks by and you step out into the large main aisle to chat with her.

While you are chatting, the person behind you in line comes up to the turntable and begins taking your bags from the turntable and putting them into her cart! How would this make you feel? Would you say anything?

Or what about this?

Person B: You are waiting in line and kind of letting your mind wander. Suddenly you look up and see that the person ahead of you is out in the main aisle talking with a friend. You suddenly think, “Oh wow, A is finished and my groceries are being scanned! So you move quickly up and begin putting bags into your cart.

Here is what happened next in this true story.

Person A quickly realizes someone is taking her items and gets a very unhappy look on her face.

Person B looks into the bags, sees cat food and realizes those groceries do not belong to her. She exclaims, “Oh, these are yours!” Trying to lighten the mood, she says, “I don’t even have a cat, so I for sure know these are not mine.”

B still thinks A has paid, but is just chatting in the aisle. Then, B realizes that A is NOT EVEN CHECKED OUT and says, “Oh, you are not even checked out yet!” B quickly backs into her place and moves her cart back.

B says, “I DO apologize!!”

A is not happy at all, says something with a frown, and finds no humor whatsoever in this scenario.

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I am B. I wish there was a “C” option. 

Now if I had a certain frame of mind, I could have laughed about that all the way to the car. Instead, my people-pleasing brain wanted call after the lady, “I really am a nice person! I am not rude and pushy!”

Maybe writing about this is a bit cathartic for me. I am admitting to you that I did something very embarrassing. You know, sometimes crazy things just happen. Ya gotta grin and move on.